Embrace a New Perspective: 8 Ways to Choose to Be Last.
My grandson graduated from preschool last week, and the ceremony was a delightful mix of joy and chaos. There was a rousing rendition of “You Are My Sunshine,” caps that wouldn’t stay on, and a bit of confusion over the handshake—even though they had practiced. While it wasn’t the setting for a grand speech, it got me thinking about what advice I would give to a high school or university graduate.
Ladies and Gentlemen, esteemed faculty, proud parents, and most importantly, dear graduates,
Today is a significant milestone, and we are here to celebrate your remarkable achievements. You’ve worked hard to be first—some of you are first-generation graduates, some are first in your class or field, and many of you have strived to be first in various endeavors, such as first chair in the orchestra, first draft pick in sports, or first place in competitions. Your dedication and perseverance have brought you to this moment.
Now, as you step into the next chapter of your life, I want to present you with a different challenge. Here are 8 ways to embrace a new perspective and choose to be last.
1. Be the last to speak. In a world that is often loud and chaotic, learn to listen well. When you take the time to truly hear others, you gain understanding, foster empathy, and build stronger relationships.
2. Be the last to argue. Understand that no one ever truly wins an argument, and it often only leads to wasted time and strained connections. Seek to understand rather than to convince.
3. Be the last to leave. Make people your priority. Focusing on meaningful interactions will enrich your journey in both your personal and professional life.
4. Be the last to point a finger. Take responsibility for your actions. Blaming others is easy, but owning your mistakes and learning from them is what will genuinely make you grow.
5. Be the last to give your opinion. Ask others for theirs and make an effort to see things from their perspective. You don’t have to agree with them, but you will make them feel valued by giving them a chance to voice their thoughts.
“So the last will be first, and the first will be last.” Matthew 20:16
6. Be the last to give advice. Never offer unsolicited advice, and when you are asked, choose your words with care. Your wisdom can be a guiding light, so use it thoughtfully.
7. Be the last to gossip. Let the rumors stop with you. Engage in conversations that build others up rather than tear them down.
8. Be the last to die. Take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. You have one life to live – live it well, with intention and purpose.
Graduates, as you step into the world, you will undoubtedly face challenges and triumphs, moments of doubt and clarity. Choosing to be last in these meaningful ways will cultivate a life of depth, connection, and fulfillment. Remember that success is not just about being first but about how well you live, how deeply you connect, and how thoughtfully you contribute to the world.
Congratulations to each one of you. May your journey be filled with wisdom, kindness, and a profound sense of purpose.
What would you add to this list or what words of wisdom would you want to impart to those graduating? Leave your comments below.
What a great message!
Thank you.